Some males use dating as a game to see how many women they can bed. You will also see girls advertising themselves by wearing skimpy and short clothing just to receive male attention. In todays society it is also acceptable to use online dating sites and speed dating, because most peoples lives have become busier, so they feel this method of meeting a mate is more opportune. When using these means of finding a mate it becomes a vicious cycle. Society wants us to choose a mate on the outer qualities and if you dont like it than, he or she can be easily replaced. I also see in the secular society that premarital sex is allowed and expected. A commitment to one person seems to be a thing of the past.
Christian Dating and Mating
Dating to Christians is about finding a lifelong mate. Many Christians who date meet at church or church related activities. Proverbs 18:22 says, He who finds a wife, finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. So dating and mating as the Lord directs is the man pursuing the woman. God gives us instructions for finding a mate in Matthew 6:33 Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you. God wants us to be equal yoked with our mate, so we must pray fully seek God when looking for a mate or acceptance of a mate that is pursuing us. We must seek a lifelong mate that we can share our heart with, and love in spite of their exterior, earnings, car or occupation.
I believe that a relationship between a man and a woman should be founded on a long friendship without a physical contact. When both male and female are seeking after God, He will open a door that no man can close (Revelation 3:8) for a beginning of a relationship. It is the male position to bring the female closer to God and the female position is to bring the male closer to God. You dont have that in the world dating system (Tyndale, 2004). The Christian couples are not bound by the three factors proximity, similarity, and physical attraction.
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